Are You Struggling To Feel Connected In Your Relationships?
Do you and your partner…
circle around the same unresolved arguments? Maybe you’re mostly happy in your relationship but worry about what will happen if you don’t learn healthier ways to communicate. You may feel yourself building resentment and feeling unable to find the road to empathy and forgiveness.
Or, perhaps you fear your relationship can’t go on—at least, not with all this drama and distance. Are you tired of being treated like a stranger? Do you wish you and your partner knew how to be more intimate and open with one another?
Are you single and…
feeling lonely and hopeless after a string of unanswered messages and disappointing dates? It might seem impossible to meet someone who shares your interests, values, relationship goals, attraction and sexual orientation, especially if you identify as LGBTQ+.
Unresolved pain from previous relationships might be making it difficult to connect with someone new. Are you tired of dating the same type of person and suffering the same cycle of heartbreak? Do you wish you knew how to find a partner who truly understands and accepts you?
Or, are you facing conflict with a loved one…
perhaps a parent, child, sibling or friend? Maybe a disagreement has led to a sudden rupture, and now you worry your bond can’t be repaired. Or perhaps, despite your best hopes and intentions, your relationship has always been burdened by conflict. Are you searching for a way to heal the hurt between you and someone you love?
Regardless of your particular relationship challenge…
Do you feel angry, hurt and powerless? Do you wish you could learn how to handle conflict and create healthy, lasting connections?
Almost Everyone Faces Relationship Conflict
Relationships present a variety of challenges. If you’re struggling to navigate parenting, friendship, dating or any other type of relationship, you are not alone. Like so many others, you might need to develop new tools to cultivate stronger connections.
Humans are social creatures. We are hardwired to attach and bond. But, we live in complex, stressful, increasingly disconnected world, with little education on how to create successful relationships.
Our earliest caregivers may have modeled love, care and connection to us. But, even the most loving parents don’t always model healthy patterns. This is especially true for those who grew up without parents or with parents and family members in discord or who struggled with mental health issues (e.g., addiction, depression, anxiety or trauma).
As a result, most people don’t know how to create the honest and secure relationships they want. Carrying wounds from our earliest attachments—from neglect, abandonment, abuse, boundary violations and more—we feel hungry for connection, but unsure where to find it. In our search, we repeat dynamics we saw in our own families—sometimes without realizing it, sometimes despite our best efforts to break damaging patterns.
In addition, most of us have hurtful memories and experiences of conflict. Conflict is often messy and uncomfortable. For some, it’s associated with emotional distress and physical danger. Because most of us have poor experiences with conflict, we are prone to avoiding it, with others and within ourselves. But buried conflict festers, erupting during moments of tension, feeding the pattern of discord and disconnection.
Successfully navigating conflict is an essential key to greater intimacy. With the help of a holistic counselor who offers effective individual therapy and practical relationship coaching, you can learn to manage heightened emotions, heal relationship wounding, clearly communicate your needs and foster healthy, loving relationships.
A Skilled Relationship Coach Can Help You Reduce Conflict And Increase Intimacy
Coaching is an extremely effective tool for addressing and resolving relationship challenges. As an experienced counselor and coach, I can help you use conflict as a tool for growth in every relationship, including your relationship with yourself.
In coaching sessions, I offer acceptance, compassion and care. If you are struggling within a partnership, friendship or familial relationship, I welcome you and your loved one(s) into my office. Through unbiased interventions and insights, I can help you develop practical tools for repairing and deepening your relationships.
For example, you can learn effective communication skills, including
- How to really listen
- How to understand where your loved one is coming from
- How to approach conflict without putting your loved one on the defense
- How to work with your emotional states so that they don’t overwhelm you and take over
I can also help people establish lasting relationships. As a dating coach for women, men and those who identify outside the gender binary, I can help you recognize red flags before it’s too late, and assess potential partners for their character, rather than just their personality or chemistry. With guidance, you can clarify your unique relationship rules, standards, wants and needs. Once you know what you’re looking for, you can feel better equipped to find a partner who’s right for you.
Over the course of relationship or dating coaching, you may uncover relational patterns or hidden pains that you wish to explore and resolve before you feel capable of using your new tools and skills. Relationship-oriented individual counseling can help you engage in this deep healing work.
For both counseling and coaching, I operate from the same belief system: you have a Source of wisdom within you. When you are able to access that wisdom, you will have a greater ability to a create the relationships you long for.
However, inner conflict, attachment trauma and a lack of relationship tools can make it difficult to access that wisdom. In one-on-one sessions, I can help you identify ineffective relational patterns and uncover any trauma, resentments, wounding and mental health issues blocking your path toward connection.
From both personal and professional experience, I know that relationship challenges can feel defeating and demoralizing. I also know that emotional wounding can make you feel entirely lost and reactive. I’m here to help you develop a personalized map. With the right balance of practical support, expert guidance and deep healing, you can begin to navigate relationships as your most authentic and Wisest Self.
You May Have Questions Or Concerns About Relationship And Couples Coaching…
If every relationship has conflict, then why do my partner and I need therapy?
You’re right — you and your partner might not need relationship therapy. That’s why I offer coaching. Although it’s true that every relationship has conflict, too few partners know how to successfully navigate that conflict and achieve greater intimacy. As your coach, I can help you develop the practical skills needed to effectively communicate and fortify your connection.
It’s already too late for this relationship. I can’t see a way out.
You don’t need to see a path forward right now. That’s my job. All you have to worry about is this: If it were possible to repair this relationship, would you be willing? If you could learn how to strengthen your relationship and feel safe, cared for and considered, would you take the steps to get there? If you’re willing to commit to this relationship, you already have everything you need to begin moving forward. I can help you find your way.
Dating is hopeless. I’m ready to give up. I’ll always be alone.
Instead of quitting dating altogether, perhaps try quitting your current dating patterns and methods. As a relationship coach, I can help you avoid common dating pitfalls and stop winding up in relationships with people who aren’t right for you
With my support, you can sift through potential matches more confidently, without repeating old patterns. Once you know what you’re really looking for—and what you really aren’t—it’s easier to find potential partners you actually could build a future with. Once you’ve healed relationship trauma, it no longer dictates patterns of behavior that lead you into unsatisfying relationships. I’ve developed specific tools for the modern dater, both from clinical training and personal experience. You don’t have to give up hope.
You Can Form And Foster Deep Connection
You don’t have to go through this alone. I invite you to call me at (303) 955-8945 for a free 20-minute phone consultation. You can ask me any questions about working with a relationship coach in Las Vegas, NV and Henderson, NV.
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